Friends for boys

So apparently after going to the parent teacher conference. I need to get bloody noses and be so angry it is time to lock myself in my room. Somehow I have failed my child. He is smarter than a whip but has NO people skills. He gets along with adults fine but finds a way to piss off every child in his classroom. I am thinking it is all because he wants the attention he will do anything to get it. Am I not giving him enough at home? Have I gotten so introverted in trying to stay well I am ignoring my child?
IT is killing me and I can't do anything to fix it. He has been hiding his classwork in his desk if he doesn't finish it. He doesn't finish it because he is constantly badgering the other kids in the classroom. Poking them, taking their pencils. It is enough to drive a mom batty. I don't have enough time to do all the things I should do as a mother. I can't make him clean every minute of the day. But If I don't the house literally falls apart and we can't find anything. I make him do his homework but forget about the weekly things like reading and doing spelling words. Because of that he is behind in reading and and in the silly things that they have to time and take back to school. I want to give him a break every once in awhile so I let him Slack off and then we don't get everything done.

I got so sick of wiping his tears everytime he went outside to play that I started to make him stay in the house. I now realize that was a huge mistake. The kid doesn't know how to act around other kids his age. He is sooo bossy. And if it doesn't go his way then he starts to argue and not do things with the other kids then he gets mad.

So my plan of attack is now to get him to read books so that he will see why the other kids don't want to be around him. Kill two birds with one stone right. Get the reading in and learn a lesson at the same time.

The things that they teacher was saying we have been hearing since tom was in kindergarten. I think it is just him. I am hoping like hell it isn't because we don't go to church here. We are still involved in "up with kids" and he has learned to calm down in there. He just gets away from the bad kids. At least it seemed to be working yesterday. I don't know I am ready to throw my hands up of the whole procedure. I don't know how to fix it I don't know how to help him. I have tried different things at home to help but everything gets thrown to the wayside. Is that my fault for not going through with everything. Maybe I do need to get him out of that school and put him in a private school. Is it because they are afraid to tell him NO Thomas knock it off. I don't want to give up on him but I don't know what else to do.

Sorry for writing this all out. I am hoping it will stop my bloody noses and let me sleep past 5:30. I suggested it to another mom on facebook and thought I should heed my own advice.